Eleanor Stoneham
(c) Eleanor Stoneham 2008
I was always passionate about plants and animals and biology was my main interest in school. I
went on to Sheffield University to study Botany where a First Class Honours Degree led me into a
three year research project into the finer aspects of beech tree nutrition, leading to a PhD. I
wanted to further pursue that interest beyond academia but industry was not ready for what they
described as an over qualified female in a man's world.
So rather than be unemployed I spent twelve months as a purchase ledger clerk at Gardner
Merchant Caterers followed by another very unhappy year in what was then the Inland Revenue,
before moving into a succession of the international accountancy firms. I qualified as a Chartered
Accountant, Tax Practitioner and Investment Adviser, had my own successful business for many
years, and took some theological training as I explored the possibility of Anglican ordination. A
serious mental breakdown enforced my early retirement from professional life. But this was a
turning point, a period of healing and spiritual growth. Together with my business background this
gives me a broad insight that I am able to put to good use in this, my first book.
I have recently completed a further book Why Religion? a rebuke to the NeoAtheists.
You have certainly had a very full professional life, starting off as a plant scientist, gaining a PhD, then
changing tack completely and becoming a qualified Chartered Accountant, Tax and Investment Consultant,
finally building your own successful Practice, as well as now being verger at your local church. Phew! That is
quite a range of experiences, clearly put to good use in the book. So how did it come about? What inspired
you?
The idea first came to me while I was on holiday in Turkey in 2004. I guess I was one of those career women who
thought I could have it all, both successful career and family. Perhaps many can do this successfully. With me
something had to give, and I was forced into early retirement by mental breakdown and burnout. This turned my
life upside down for a while, and I was convalescing by the side of the swimming pool in that Turkish villa
wondering what to do next to occupy my time and keep my brain working!
A friend had lent me some of the contemplative books by the Roman Catholic priest Henri Nouwen, including his
short bestselling gem, The Wounded Healer. The idea here is that through suffering his own physical and mental
wounds the Wounded Healer acquires a special empathy for recognizing and healing the wounds of others. This is
embodied not only in the life of Jesus Christ, (probably the most famous Wounded Healer of all time), but in the
story of the healing centaur Chiron and the work of the indigenous shaman.
It was the Jungian psychoanalysts who probably first started referring to the Wounded Healer archetype as a
recognized tool in the healing process. But it was Nouwen who really popularized the term within a wider spiritual
and pastoral healing context when he wrote that book in 1979. And then I came upon Nouwen's biography,
Wounded Prophet, written by Michael Ford. And that is what I was reading by the side of that pool.
So where did that lead you?
As I thought more about what I was reading it seemed to me that the compassion and vulnerability of the
Wounded Healer could have significance for healing our dangerously fractured world far beyond the realms of the
pastoral and medical professions. Because that is where it is primarily researched and understood as a means of
healing and where most of the literature is to be found. Where else, I mused, can we find the Wounded Healer in
our lives? How, I thought, could we hope to heal this world when so many of us have our own unhealed spiritual
and mental wounds, and so much of our destructive behavior is because of those wounds; when for so many of
us it is not regarded as appropriate in our working lives to show too much compassion, let alone vulnerability.
But then I realised that the scope of my book needed to be broader, that the motif of the Wounded Healer is but
part of the greater need for more spirituality in our lives.
And I really had not realized the enormity of the project I had started. Perhaps if I had known I wouldn't have
started it! Who knows?! But I did make a start as soon as I came back to the UK. My researches then took me
deeper and wider into so very many other fields, and my varied work life and experiences certainly gave me a
head start.
Then I found a quote from a speech Robert Kennedy made in Cape Town in 1966:
Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he
sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring,
those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.
I liked that idea very much, the idea that we can all start those ripples of hope with some action, however small
and insignificant that action may at first seem. In fact the working title of the book was Ripples of Hope. I wanted
that title but my publisher O Books didn't like it!
Where did you write the book?
I wrote the book mostly in a really quiet hideaway in Dorset, that I visited for two weeks at a time, and when I was
stuck for ideas I would go for a swim or take long walks along the coastal footpaths, often in wild weather, to find
further inspiration.
How long did you take to write it?
The book required loads of research. I made many visits to Guildford University library to start with. Then more
information gradually became available on the Internet and this enabled me to take my laptop to Dorset as I could
always connect up to the Internet for more information if I needed to. And of course communication at a distance
is so very much easier now - and getting easier all the time!
So I suppose in answer to your question it was researched and written over 6 years, although not on a fulltime
basis. I had my gardens to look after as well.
When I started there was nothing like the media concern we see today over global warming and climate change.
But that was never my sole preoccupation and takes up only one chapter of the book. I am more concerned with
the need for spirituality in all aspects of our lives - and there is an increasing recognition of a new spiritual
consciousness in the world - into which my ideas neatly slot.
Are you following your own recommendations?
Oh gosh I'm no saint and I don't expect others to be saints. Look, the point is we can all at least start ripples…I
write in the book about reasons why we do nothing when it is clear that action is needed - ignorance, futility, that
sort of thing. Yes I do support my own favourite organizations that work to relieve worldwide poverty, hunger,
suffering, or promote interfaith dialogue, for example. I support and follow Sojourners, for example, but
everyone will have different personal preferences and that is fine. There are lots of ideas in the book.
The green initiatives for tackling climate change are only part of my thesis, and yes I do try hard to recycle as much
as possible, conserve energy, buy the best rated electrical consumer goods like washing machine, dishwasher (yes
I know!), kettle, (only boil the exact amount I need), use timer programs to come on overnight at cheap rate, hang
out washing when weather allows, avoid packaging and try to shop on the basis of need not greed, buy fair trade
goods, all that sort of stuff, and I do consciously combine loads of different errands into each car journey. I did go
vegetarian straightaway - I had felt strongly for a long while about the cruelties of farming, and there is no way we
can feed the world if we insist on converting plant fodder into meat instead of eating it directly…the waste in food
energy is huge if we all eat meat.
Are there other books like yours?
Well yes there are a few on similar lines, but none takes the spiritual and vulnerability idea quite as far as I do. In
fact I can find no other book with the same emphasis on exploring the healing idea as catalyst for social change,
whilst taking the reader through specific work and leisure situations, appealing to anyone who cares about the
future of our planet to reassess aspects of their own lives.
Chief Rabbi Jonathan Sacks' bestselling book To Heal a Fractured World - the Ethics of Responsibility is an in depth
exploration of our individual responsibilities to shape the world, but from a reasonably specialised and Jewish
theological base, rather than from the perspective of healing (in spite of the title). Mine offers that healing
perspective, woven around the image of the Wounded Healer.
There is an increasing interest in all books that consider the future of the world and our place within it, and there
are some very good ones, but mostly they concentrate on climate change, not looking at the other issues in
society that need healing. Some are doom laden, as with James Lovelock's latest book, The Vanishing Face of
Gaia: A Final Warning. From a scientific viewpoint I feel quite sure that Lovelock is on the right lines, but my book
emphasises the hope that can be found in a spiritual, vulnerable and compassionate approach to life. Jim Wallis in
God's Politics: Why the Right Gets it wrong and the Left Doesn't Get It similarly argues for a new spiritual revival to
transform society but from a political standpoint rather than in the context and emphasis of individual healing. His
latest book, Rediscovering Values: a Moral Compass for the New Economy, supports my views, but as indicated
by the title it has a narrower scope than my own book.
So how would you summarise your main message?
The basic message is how we will steer the world's future through personal responsibility and healing using
ancient spiritual wisdoms.
But let me expand on that. The world is seriously wounded, threatened by violence, egocentricity and mass
consumerism. Government intervention alone will never solve society's problems. We need a bottom up
approach, taking personal responsibility for healing on a global scale.
I show in my book how Carl Jung, Carl Rogers, Scott Peck and Aldous Huxley all came from different philosophies
and backgrounds but nevertheless they shared a common vision and understanding: they all appreciated the
significance, and the potential social impact, of the spiritual growth and health of the individual for the future
health of the world.
Never have spirituality and faith and the ancient wisdoms of all the great religions been more relevant than in
today's fractured world and we need to appreciate these in a spirit of mutual respect and understanding. More
than that, I believe there is an urgent need to integrate ancient spiritual wisdom and philosophy with modern
scientific endeavors and rediscover the spiritual in all our material experiences. This is our responsibility and we
have no choice if we are to halt the destruction all around us. This is a matter of faith for many and an obligation
for all humankind.
Throughout the book I therefore try to weave science and spirituality with philosophy and ancient wisdom, using
this potent imagery of the Wounded Healer.
Most importantly I write the book around a message of hope as it speaks to a palpable global shift towards
holistic and spiritual values. The hope theme was I suppose inspired by Barack Obama's best seller, The Audacity
of Hope, in which he shares personal views on faith and values and offers a vision of the future. Through the
healing needs of relationship, our economy, our environment and the living Gaia, creativity in all its forms, and
finally the curing professions of pastoral and medical care, I aim to show how we may all become catalysts for
social change, for a happier and more peaceful world.
The book has plenty of footnotes and references reflecting the background research, and supporting action. In
the final Appendix I provide a comprehensive resource for the reader to use for further action. This tells the story
of how I was influenced and inspired to write this book, my own Journey of Hope. It then brings in a few more
ideas and fills in a few details on others, and leaves us all fully equipped to start our own mission to heal this
fractured world.
What will people take away from reading this book?
Of course if the world benefits then we all benefit.
I really hope that anyone genuinely concerned for the future healing needs of this world will read this. If only
more of us would heed these messages, ponder them in our hearts and understand the significance of our actions
and our healing; the world would become a better place for us all. Surely we all have this responsibility.
Meanwhile, while we decide what to do, the wounds of the world become ever more serious and the healing
needs more urgent.
When you are not writing - what do you like to do?
I just love being outdoors - almost certainly a response to my childhood spent on my father's dairy farm. I was
always outside working or playing around that farm.
I had riding lessons recently but wish I had started those as a kid!! It is not, I found, as easy as it looks!
I cycled recently for two Marie Curie Cancer care fundraising events, one from London to Paris and then from
Vilnius in Lithuania to Warsaw in Poland, but I broke my elbow at the end of the second day and had to spend the
remaining 3 days in the escort van accompanying the ride. That did put me off a little, and anyway there is a limit
as to how often you can ask the same people to sponsor you.
I also love gardening, at home and at the allotment and helping out a few others with their own gardens - and I
love going back to Dorset, to my writing hideaway, and to La Gomera, where I can write in the sun!!
Who did you write this for?
Everyone who cares and has any concern for the future of our world.
And what's in it for the reader?
Each and every one of us will benefit. We'll be happier for a start. But much more than that - I show how it is
possible for us all to leave a considerably better future for those who come after us. In his UK best seller Heat:
How We Can Stop the Planet Burning, environmental scientist, philosopher and best selling author George
Monbiot admits to being driven to action by the birth of his own child. He is as keen to see her survive in "a
liveable world" as any of us must surely be for our own children and grandchildren.
What is your idea?
My book is based on a simple idea, found in many wisdom traditions: that our wounds make us whole. But it then
goes deeper than that.
It reflects upon how we need to recognize the healing principles of spirituality and compassion in our fractured
world, rediscover that love and compassion in ourselves and find our own spirit and soul, in everything we do, so
that we may all become catalysts for social change.
And I do this by looking in turn at our environment and the earth we call Gaia, our health systems, our creativity
in its many different forms, the economy, our faith, and the importance of relationship and community, all within
a context of hope for our future.
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